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extraordinary exspense
« on: August 01, 2013, 10:45:32 AM »
My boyfriend has shared custody of his two kids. Week on week off. His ex is pushing him to contribute to preschool costs.
, 175 a week. He doesnt have any special education needs he is a normal four almost five year old developing at the pace he should be. The teason this has come up is because she is moving out of the school district that is small and prek education is virtually free. The new school district is larger and because he does not have any special education needs he they do not have spaced available.  Is putting him in preschool considered an extraordinary expense??? She wants to put him in full time which he wasnt even in before and we do not need daycare because I have adjusted my schedule so that I can care for him while my boyfriend has to work. I just need to clarify what his obligations are. We both feel that its best for the child to stay at home and learn or at most part time preschool....


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Re: extraordinary exspense
« Reply #1 on: August 01, 2013, 04:23:11 PM »
Educational decisions are to be agreed upon by both parents. Pre school costs may be considered by the Court as childcare costs and included in the child support equation.

It would appear your boyfriend has several options.

1. Agree with the mother and share the cost of pre school even if the child does not attend while on his parenting time.
2. Agree with the mother and the provider on an attendance schedule and to share the cost of pre school.
3. Refuse to contribute to the cost of pre school and wait for his X to file with the Court for a new Child Support hearing that may include a provision Ordering sharing the costs of pre school.


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Re: extraordinary exspense
« Reply #2 on: August 02, 2013, 02:57:36 PM »
The courts generally consider preschool as daycare.  The cost of which will be split consistent with the income shares proportion (if you're familiar with that).  So your question about whether it is considered an extraordinary expenses really doesn't impact child support because childcare is always in addition to child support just like the extraordinary expenses would be.

When considering your options, you may want to think about a few things.  1.) the court may not view kindly on the fact that your boyfriend is asking his girlfriend to watch his kids.  I don't know either of you, I'm just telling you this because I've personally watched a judge jump all over a father for having his girlfriend live with him and his kids.  He was old fashioned.  That being said, both parents have the freedom to make the decision they feel is best for their kids.  2.) If your bf doesn't agree to the new arrangements or would like to propose something else, I would encourage you to put it in writing and send a certified letter.  If you don't, it will be "he said/ she said" in the court room.

Personally, I think preschool is a good thing for kids.  It helps them learn to interact with other kids with more supervision before they hit kindergarten.  I agree with you maybe wanting to keep preschool to only part time, but I don't know that I agree that keeping the kids home is the best.  Preschool is expensive, but its temporary and usually beneficial.