As long as the judge who is always over our case in Barton county, is still there, we will always get hosed and get hosed hard. My husband did not leave the marriage in any kind of dignified way and the judge absolutely flat out stated that he was "an old fuddy duddy" and did not like the situation at all. When we went before him in March, for the first time in three years, the judge remembered the case very well and just ate us alive. We truly believe that anything we initiate will be poo- poo'd and tossed aside as long as this judge is over our case... we believe that about a motion to adjust support as well. We do have an open case with child support enforcement to have them figure our numbers. They are waiting for the custodial parent to respond with her numbers. They told me there is no time limit given to her to get back to them... so we imagine it will never happen anyway. We feel very powerless and scared for the future of ALL of the children. yes, there have been weekends when we couldn't afford the fuel to go pick them up.. the custodial parent then accuses my husband of being neglectful, petty and "all about money" when he says he didn't have anything left of his paycheck to be able to pay for fuel and then food for the kids for the weekend.  So what does he do? He puts in for extra hours and winds up working on the weekends while the kids basically have visitation with me and the babies.  This past weekend, the kids were here for Saturday and Sunday.. my husband got called to work an extra shift on Saturday so he took it.. again, we have less than $2 in our checking account. I just looked and we have 24 cents in our savings account. He truly felt he had no choice but to work 24 of the 48 hours the kids were with us. It's crazy. AND the ex has the nerve to chastise him and say he doesn't care about the kids because he prefers to work an extra shift rather than spend that 24 hours with them. Talk about a rock and a hard place.

Guru,

Earlier in this thread on May 24th I posed some clarification questions for you regarding a post you made earlier in this thread. I am re-posting them in case you missed it.

While it is clear through this post and others on your site that you are advocating for a specific basis of Child Support and changes to the guidelines it is not clear when you tell KS Step Mom "Obtaining a transcript will make your case even stronger with the committee and the next judge." it reads as if you are giving Legal advise instead of your opinion or a possible, would not hurt to try it, scenario. Are you giving expert Legal advise instructions or your opinion?

1. What is the basis of your statement as a matter of fact?

Your statement is incomplete as you did not explain to a non Legal professional or anyone reading this what a "transcript" is or how to obtain one. That is something only experience, possibly through use of an attorney, would give someone knowledge of.

2. Please explain for your readers here of the general public what a Court transcript is, in which types of Courtrooms they are taken and how to obtain a copy of one related to their own case.

KSDad,

I thought this was a forum for discussion. Maybe not...... Why do you feel attacked?

The original author of this thread may not know what to ask. I certainly did not know about Court Transcripts before I had a few challenging and unfortunate experiences dealing with Legal technicalities and learning from opposing counsels Legal tactics. It is not my place to chime in and give my interpretation of what Guru was saying in his posts. Questioning it gives him the opportunity to make sure the information he thinks is important into the thread.

I think it is important to be specific when a statement is made as to why it is being made so that people can learn from the experience of others.
When a statement is made as if fact without explanation that does not help anyone to learn from it or make their own evaluation of it's validity. That is what questions are for. Anyone reading this thread can decide for themselves what questions are of interest and why someone would choose to leave them unanswered.

How would you know why another poster would not have replied to my questions? Are you buddies with Guru & had a conversation about this or are you speaking out of turn, representing your opinion as fact? Did Guru give you his voice?

My experiences working with many attorneys on my personal Legal matters are not in line with your representations of attorneys.

KS Dad,

Thankfully you are not the Royal We, with power to speak or think on behalf of "all people".

Anyone can click on my ID here and then click on read all posts to make their own decision.

At least my questions have focused on statements made in posts here and are not character assassinations like your statements about me. So, who is the bully here?